A Positive Send off to School, part two
Success at last! It’s
been over two months since I started my determination to have a scold-free
morning with a strong-willed child at my house!
I set up a chart, and the plan was to have IT be the only reminder/nag
about expectations for morning at our house.
See: http://ideasformypocket.blogspot.com/2015/08/scold-me-not.html
Well, for two months next to nothing happened! Rather than earn a bought lunch, he either
paid for his own or went without one! As
for the before school chores and things, he just didn’t do them! (before
school, that is)
But I:
1. Stuck to my plan.
I continued to put up a chart—a new one for September and October. If he didn’t do his practicing and chores
before school, and knock down the homework, I then required them after school
each day before he could play.
2. Refused to scold.
If he chose to be late, that was his choice. I was not going to manage him nor get
upset. So in the mornings, I worked to
stay busy and cheerful!
Well, this very week, it was as if he discovered for himself
that he could get those things done before school and have more free time
after! He has done them all and marked
the chart FOUR DAYS IN A ROW! He wants
the reward, and decided it was worth it to do the requirements! If Mom was not going to force this issue nor
manage his morning, he could decide for himself! It’s been sweet!! And he is happy about his plan to get a lot
done and be ready on time!
When a child—especially a strong-willed child—makes the
choice to do something good on his own, it is always better than when he is
convinced to make a choice. It just took
time. I had to be consistent and
patient! And now, I can pour on the Praise for his
great choices!
We’ll see how long this lasts. I may have to change it up and come up with a
different plan later on. But for now, I
am loving my Scold-Free Mornings! They
are worth the wait!
As for the Daddy Report, I had to work on that a little
too. At parent teacher conferences, one
particular teacher was quite negative. I
know what a great child I have (and all previous teachers have agreed with me),
but this time by the end of the conference, there had not one good thing been
said about him! I had to ask: “I
need a couple of complements to take home to Dad.” Whereupon she did have some good things to
say: that he is very enthusiastic and an
excellent reader.
Teachers are over-worked and over-loaded with so many kids
per classroom—they have a lot of pressure to get all the students to pass the
new state tests. Therefore, it is my
job to help them see the positive in my son.
And it is my job to guard my little one’s self-esteem. I am actually glad that this teacher expects
a lot of him, and I’m sure he will rise to the challenge (with my help).
But in the meantime, I intend to tell him
what a great person he is! And to have Dad
tell him too. Maybe with the combination
of letting up on the scolding, helping with his math facts and spelling, and showering
him with complements and love, we’ll meet these goals!
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